|Posted on September 5, 2015 at 5:30 PM|
People who are hurting oftentimes hurt those around them.
I don't believe it is intentional--I doubt they wake up thinking that this is the day I will hurt Josh or Marie. They may know on some level that what they are doing may be hurtful in some way, but I believe they feel at the time as if there is no other smart option.
I think at one time or another we have all been in a place where our past begins to haunt us when we are in a relationship or when we are dealing with a boss or coworker or a friend. We might feel as if the other person deserves to feel what we felt when they hurt us and that maybe if they do, they will wise up and stop being such a jerk. But what we are forgetting is that we would be responding to them in the same way they have responded to us in the past. We think payback may be appropriate, but it's entirely likely they felt the same way when they did whatever it was that hurt us.
We may be justified in our feelings about someone, but before we act we should step back and remember everything we have learned about compassion and acceptance.
Just because we think we have a right to feel the way we do doesn't mean we have the right to stay there.
For those who are followers of the Bible: 1 Corinthians 13:7 (NLT)..."Love never gives up. never loses faith, is always hopeful, and endures through every circumstance."
There are a lot of dark spots in the world, and it is up to those of us who have asked to be of service to others to let our light shine so they can see and feel what will lead them away from their current negative patterns and habits.
One more passage: 1 Peter 4:8 (NLT)..."Most important of all, continue to show deep love for each other, for love covers a multitude of sins."
Understanding that someone may be feeling or going through something we have no knowledge of will help us to be more compassionate and treat them as we would want to be treated. If the negativity is more than we can take and if it is adversely affecting us, we have every right to lovingly explain that maybe we need some time apart, but to berate them, assuming we know everything in their heart and mind, is not the way of light.